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In preparing kids for the “real world,” parents and teachers are realizing that too much of a good thing can be a bad thing.
Even praise.
The "everyone deserves a trophy" stance can foster “narcissism in children” that is cultivated by “overvaluation.” When “Good job!” is said too many times, about even the most mundane of activities, kids begin to crave outer validation.
They then rely less and less upon their own inner barometers of confidence and achievement.
Bryanne Salazar of She
Knows explains: These empty, valueless
praises instill the belief that a child
needs a verbal reward for doing what every
other person in all of humanity has done… (things
like eating, bathing, and cleaning up after self).
Constantly asking (or practically begging) children to please do this, that and the other thing can become a problem. The word “please” often connotes a favor, as opposed to an expectation.
Kids then begin to feel that adults (and the world itself) owe them big time.
Clear, firm and direct communication can instead “be pivotal to how a child internalizes instructions.”
Resources
http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/family/school-bans-teachers-from-using-the-word-please/ar-CCpqz8?li=BBnbfcL
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