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| Madame de Pompadour (mistress of Louis XV) |
If the Woman's Day article 8 Marriage Lessons from Surprising Sources is any indication, an earful of useful responses may reward such a bold inquiry.
Advice from the proverbial 'other' seems to center
upon two main themes: being good to yourself and being good to your partner.
Being good to yourself entails keeping friendships,
hobbies, meaningful work and projects intact even
when tempted to throw them all aside "for the sake of" the primary relationship. What the latter choice generally leads to is an overwhelming "need" for that relationship, which in turn tends to smother it. Better to have her or him missing you than wishing you would disappear around the next corner.
Being good to yourself also means maintaining a healthy lifestyle. It's hard enough to be truly present in a relationship without also wondering if you'll be able to stay awake long enough to kiss goodnight. You may be wondering, "But who has time for all that primping?" Women's Day answer: The 'other' does, so you'd better too…
Now that you've been so good to yourself that your partner finds you once again irresistible, how can you keep the reignited home fires burning? By being at least as good to your partner as you now are to yourself… If he or she has the urge to spill detail after detail about the work day, listen up! Ask questions. Give compliments. Empathize. If she or he offers to cook dinner, swoon over the results (even if they're a bit charred). And who knows? A grateful hug could then lead to a very satisfying dessert.
Resources
http://www.womansday.com/sex-relationships/dating-marriage/8-marriage-lessons-from-surprising-sources-115127
Copyright August 25, 2012 by Linda Van Slyke All Rights Reserved
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