Good grief: Nancy's amazing Grace

While being interviewed by Piers Morgan recently, Nancy Grace openly shared what seems to be a raw grief that is more than 30 years withstanding.  Many viewers might be asking:  Why hasn’t she “gotten past it” by now?

Nancy herself explained:  There is no closure.  It’s like breaking your arm and never getting it set…  She then said that you might learn to flip pancakes with that arm again, but you will never flip them in the way that you used to, and it will always hurt.  Not only has it hurt for all these years, but this searing loss

has transmuted her life altogether.

Before her finace’s murder, Nancy Grace had planned on becoming an English professor.  She was thoroughly enamored with Shakespearian literature.  During the immediate aftermath of this personal tragedy, Grace was so shattered that she could barely stand to hear the ticking of a clock.  It was during this period of intense mourning that Grace discovered a new calling.  She would go to law school in order to help victims of criminal tragedies such as hers.

Although there is much debate about the way in which Grace has pursued this goal, there is little debate about her steadfastness of purpose.  There was absolutely no turning back to her former life.  As Grace said during the Morgan interview:  That was a different life, and a different dream, and a different girl, and that girl is gone…

The grief, however, remains very much in tact.  Dr. Darcie Sims – author, speaker, and leader of Grief, Inc. in Louisville, Kentucky – very much agrees with Nancy Grace’s assessment of closure.  Sims asserts:  There is no such thing as closure in grief.  The only thing that closes at the funeral or cemetery is the casket…  YOU DON’T STOP LOVING SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE THEY DIED…  THEY ARE NOW AND ALWAYS WILL BE A LIVING AND LOVING PART OF WHO WE ARE!

And with enough “Amazing Grace,” we will honor that LIVING AND LOVING PART  by paying it forward…

Resources

http://jezebel.com/5822571/okay-fine-nancy-grace-is-actually-human

http://www.lifefiles.com/libraryArticle.php?i_messageid=146

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nancy_Grace

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Piers_Morgan

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