Enlarging Small Talk

(by Pieter Brueghel the Younger) 

While emerging from pandemic isolation, small talk could be an invaluable tool for reconnecting with others. 

It’s not just a matter of “How’s the weather, over and out,” but more a matter of forging a genuine bond.  This could be momentary, or perhaps a bridge toward friendship.

Speech trainer John Bowe explains that these brief encounters have their dos and don’ts.  In order to even begin, one must not assume rejection.  Chances are that others are somewhat eager to make connections also.

Then there are the cues along the way.  If a person is already engaged in conversation, wait your turn before intrusively breaking in.  If someone seems “distant or lost in thought,” asking for preliminary permission can sound something like this: “Would you mind if I ask you for directions?”  If that person seems receptive, be sure to follow through with a formulated request, such as, “Do you know of a good restaurant near here?”

With any luck, you might find yourself heading for lunch together.  So here are a few more tips:  Avoid hot-button topics, do not monopolize the conversation, do not ask overly personal questions, and do not fiddle with your phone.

Resources

https://www.cnbc.com/2021/08/17/avoid-these-mistakes-if-you-want-to-be-good-at-small-talk-says-public-speaking-expert.html

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