Break up, break down, break free

Tennyson  (Print by J. M. Cameron)

According to Ashley Mateo of Self, there are three stages concerning the dissolution of an intimate relationship:  break up, break down, break free.

A study featured in the Journal of Positive Psychology indicates that young adults often go through these stages within three months.  In other words, it generally takes at least 90 days for suddenly-singles to develop some positive perspectives about the breakup.

These positive perspectives began to emerge within both parties:  the one who initiated the breakup, and even the one who didn’t. They were expressed by such statements as “I have learned a lot about myself” and “I have grown as a person.”

So it appears that Lord Tennyson was right: ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Here’s to the poet within us all that’s waiting (breathlessly) to be ignited by love.

Resources

http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/here%E2%80%99s-how-long-it-actually-takes-to-get-over-a-breakup/ar-BBgiGEC

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